- July 11, 2014
- Posted by: admin
- Category: Women in Leadership
FINDING WORTH IN THE LOVE OF THE FATHER by Diketso Mogwena
When you are in the hand of the Father you are cared for, pampered and protected. The prodigal son left the house of the father because according to him the fathers covering was no longer enough for him, he was looking for more. He looked at life in another angle that he thought the father did not know, the father seemed to be hindering him from enjoying and being what his heart desired, little did he realise that the father was protecting him, he was sheltering him from the cruel storms of life that were going to rip his ship apart (his life), the same goes for us, God wants to introduce us to a heart we have never imagined existed, he wants to give us overflowing love that we have never experienced in our lives, the kind of love that will wash away every trace of hurt, pain, rejection and brokenness.
It is only His love that can make us better; it is only his presence that will melt away the humiliation and break the neck of rejection in our lives. He fashioned women by his own mighty hand and only he understands a woman’s heart. He is the only one who knows the little girl within us, he is also the only one who can sing us a lullaby that can soothe our hearts and give peace to our souls. He is the kind of a father who is not impressed by our beauty, smiles and the laughter we give to the world but he sees the tears behind each smile, every tear we cry behind the beautiful makeup we put on and he wants to give us permanent joy, laughter and peace. He desires to be that father who will wrap his big and warm arms around us each night when we are terrified by a nightmare, he wants to be that father who reads us a bed time story each night before we go to sleep, he wants to be the daddy who will give us a good morning kiss each morning when we wake up.
He wants us to trust him with our deepest affairs knowing and trusting that we are safe with him; knowing well that he will never betray us nor turn his back on us. He doesn’t count how many faults we have committed but celebrates who we are. It took the prodigal son to mess up so greatly for the great love of a father to be revealed, it is at that point when your heart is so broken and it seems like you will never be whole again, when your world is turned upside down, when you are facing the greatest betrayal in life that the fathers love is revealed, the kind of love that pulls you through the worst times when you thought you will die in the situation. It is the love of the father that is able to keep us standing and have hope that tomorrow will be better.
We need to understand that hurts and rejection do not mean that God has turned his back against us but it is through these situations that the true heart of our father is revealed in depth and we find ourselves growing more closer to him than we have never imagined it was possible. Our father knows us, we cannot hide anything from him, underneath the makeup, the grown up suits, the career driven women we are but he knows how vulnerable we are and how scared we are, he knows our desire of wanting to belong, our father understands how tired we are of proving ourselves to everyone and how much we desire to be loved and appreciated for who we are.
I have found it to be such a comfort to know that with God I can be myself without altering my personality due to being afraid of being rejected and it is such a blessing to know that we can run to the arms of our father and that in his arms we will be safe and protected and He will not take advantage of our vulnerabilities. At times I cannot be real with my family, with my friends and my colleagues because I want to leave up to the expectations of who they think I am but I am thankful that with my father I can be Me, I can be honest about my issues, failures, hurts, humiliations, and brokenness because he knows me better than I know myself. One thing for sure is that our fragile hearts are safe with God.
Psalms 139v1-6 (NKJV)
O Lord, You have searched me and known me.
2 You know my sitting down and my rising up;
you understand my thought afar off.
3 You comprehend my path and my lying down,
and are acquainted with all my ways.
4 For there is not a word on my tongue,
but behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
5 You have hedged me behind and before,
and laid your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
it is high, I cannot attain it.
He knows our worst but thinks the very best about us and he never gives up on us even when we have given up on ourselves, when everyone turns their back on us he remains faithful and loves us still even after we have made a series of bad decisions and we find ourselves in a messed up situation filled with the echoing memories of the broken promises. He throws a feast for us even though we have messed up, failed and disappointed him, we see the father show such affection that is unimaginable, Luke 15v22-23 demonstrates the kind of an unconditional love that the father has for his own. He loves us regardless of what we have done, we don’t need to acquire a qualification in order for him to accept us but he loves us as we are, He thinks and sees only the best in us. 22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring[a] out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. 23 And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry”
Even when the world has written us off like the woman with the alabaster jar and the woman at the well, when we have failed and brought shame to the house of God, when we don’t deserve to be called his own but it is such a comfort to know there is a father who is acquainted with our shame, our pain and our brokenness. A father who knows our names and our hearts, a father who sees beyond the natural eyes of men, his eye operates differently, it sees beyond the damage, it sees beyond the mess, the hurt, pain and humiliation, his eyes sees us through his unconditional love. When the world chooses to see damaged goods in you he sees a glorious, phenomenal Vessel for the kingdom. The pain you feel is not to destroy you but to break you to become who God wants you to be. This pain is a preparation to where he is taking you. God allows us to be broken because through it victory will prevail. The valley of the shadow of death you are walking in is not to destroy you but to show you that he will hold your hand and never allow you to be destroyed.
Psalms 23 v5; you prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil; my cup runs over. 1 Corinthians 2v9; But as it is written: “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man
the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.
In Genesis 37v5-7; “Joseph had a dream. When he told it to his brothers, they hated him even more. He said, “Listen to this dream I had. We were all out in the field gathering bundles of wheat. All of a sudden my bundle stood straight up and your bundles circled around it and bowed down to mine” Joseph had a dream that he knew beyond a shadow of doubt that God destined him for greatness, he understood who he was but the necessity of a pit couldn’t be escaped, his dream had to be tested and tried just like gold that is taken through the fire in order for it to be refined, just as Christ had to go to the cross in order for redemption to come and for death to be conquered, Joseph needed Potiphar’s wife in order for his true character to be tested, he had to be imprisoned in order for his patience to be tested. I can imagine how difficult the journey was for Joseph, he had to face the greatest betrayal from the ones closest to his heart, those he once thought would lay their lives down for his but he had to watch them sell him away and throw him in a deep dark and cold pit, just like you and me maybe he asked himself where is God? What is he saying about my struggles? Doesn’t he care that I am going through these pains? But he was still the same God that promised I will never leave you nor forsake you, even through this pain he was there all along, at times he didn’t feel his presence but he was still there watching over him, when pain overwhelmed him God kept saying HOLD ON my son this is just a test, I am taking you to a greater place – the palace is waiting for you to occupy it.
Your name shall be great amongst your people but I need to prune and prepare you. You cannot possess the blessings I have for you unless I take you through this process. This is not to kill you but build your character and train you to stand the test of these trials. To you woman of God whose going through hell in your life remember this that God is allowing you to go through the hell so you can come back with a story/ testimony of his goodness. You will speak like King David and say; yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. You will go through it but it shall not consume you but he will see you through it all;
Isaiah 43v2; when thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
A woman finds her definition in nothing else but in the love of her Father (God), His love reveals to us our uncompromised value, when we see ourselves through the fathers love that’s then when we discover who we are in him and it is only through his love that we are able to find the courage to do all that he has destined us for. Only the father is able to protect us, if we run away from his arms we soon find arms that are willing to embrace us but the problem is that these arms cannot feel the deepest loneliness we feel, they cannot take away the aches in our hearts and cannot mend the shattered pieces of our broken hearts. They did not create us, they do not have the manual of our lives because they are mere human beings they do not have answers to the confusion we feel but only God holds the answers, only he can remove the low self-esteem, only he can remove the walls that we have built around ourselves because we want to protect ourselves from being hurt but instead these same walls trap us and do not numb the pain nor give us a better self-image instead they make it impossible for us to trust God with our lives.
Through the pain you are going through my sister I want you to know that there is a greater promise from the father, all that you are facing is a ladder that is laid up for you so you can climb higher to your destiny. Allow the fathers love to illuminate you. You are not a woman because God ran out of ideas but you are a woman because God knows beyond doubt that you can carry the assignment, he knows that you have the multiplying ability in you and He wants you to see your beauty through him, to see the kind of beauty that is not classified by your outside appearance but his refreshing presence that he blows in you each day, his presence that removes the deep ugliness you feel. You matter to God, you are valuable and you are his beloved Princess. A rare jewel that is impossible for humans to identify unless he reveals you to them.